The Quintessential Proof

With Love(for the Wife), Honestly!!!

Fours years of togetherness it is. Married for 4 years. She is such a lovely heavenly girl. She is the most beautiful of all girls I have ever seen. Oh, wait wait, this aint about that. While all I said is true, this post aint about that. I am not trying to write a post which is superficial and all praises for my significant other on this 4th wedding anniversary of ours. I wanted to honestly give it a thought, What has these 4 years done to me? Reflecting on the journey, I recall a please stride overall. Not to say, there weren’t any lows, they were there, a handful of them. For if there weren’t those lows, we would have never held on with a girt to hit the highs. 

Pressing through difficult times as a married man, I have always wondered, when Life can be so simple being single why should we complicate things by hooking on to the so called better half?. I was better off alone, nothing to commit, no one to answer to and nothing to worry about. Then I heard a myself answering the question, “Life of course is simple when alone, but don’t you want to enjoy the abundance that life has on offer?” And then I reflect, for one to cherish such a magnanimous abundance called life, doing that all alone is a bit of a challenge. To ease the process and appreciate all the dimensions it holds, we need a significant other whose thought processes are wildly varied from ours. May be that’s why Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus, if not for that, we would know only either one of the beautiful planets. Your significant other puts you out of the comfort zone, they force you to think like you have never thought before and they make you see the world with a brand new pair of eyes. Who welcomes change in this world? And which change is pleasant to handle? But just look at what you are now and what made you this, it is those changes which you hung on to, they are responsible for moulding the new you. 

My significant other showed me what Love can do, She showed me what my passion is, She showed me what I can be. From merely being something, she showed me ways of being anything what I wanted to be. Though, I can’t help it thinking, how all the time in this world would have been only mine if only I were single. But I also can’t help it but think I would have never done anything with that time if she hasn’t shown the way as to what to do with it. For all that she gave, I am not complaining, but being grateful for the new doors she opened and new life she showed. Any change, though unpleasant in the beginning, ends up making the new you whom you are proud to show of to the world. Mother of all changes, a marriage will definitely throw you out of place, bounce you off the walls and drain every bit of your energy. But trust me, end of the day, it is all worth it. It makes you a better person and brings out of you things you never knew would exist within you. 

As I look into the future, I do see bad times coming, I do see quarrels between her and me, but bigger than that I see a life of abundance with her. I can’t see myself walking alone to have my grab of that abundance, for the abundance wouldn’t have come to me in the first place if not for her. I want to share it with her, with my significant other, to relish the fruits of life and of course, with a few nudges here and there :-) 

Dedicated to all the couples who wonder if they are doing ok with their marriage (Just like us :-P) and to the singles who are wondering if they should take the dip, You Should :-)