A Perfect Partner does not just happen, it is destined!-Like you were destined for me!!!

“A Perfect Partner can never be chosen, it just happen!! - Like YOU happened for me :-)” – This was the title of my blog that I wrote exactly a year ago on my wife’s birthday. One long year has gone by… Time enough to reveal her true colours… She has showed me her true face… and it is time to modify the title of this blog:

“A Perfect Partner does not just happen, it is destined!-Like you were destined for me J”

When I used to dream how my wife should be,

 I dreamt her to be

The most beautiful being on planet earth,

The most loving creature in the universe

& The most caring soul in the multiverse.

Sounds like fantasy?

Some people on this planet are so blessed

That their life ends up being a fantasy,

I am one!

She is the most beautiful girl I have ever seen,

Not because she has a flawless skin

But because she brings out the beauty in me.

She is the most loving girl ever,

Not because I can’t live without her

But because her love makes my life worthwhile.

She is the most caring girl,

Not because she looks after me when I’m ill

But because she puts me back on my toes whenever life knocks me down.

She is with me in my tears and joy,

She is with me in my fears and ploys;

She is with me in my triumph and failure,

She is my pitfall, she is my allure.

For one who is both my sides,

Here comes a cocktail Poem;

It’s in Tamil, It’s in English,

For She is a Granule, She is Embellish.

காதல் காவியம், With Love, a Poem!!!

You let my heart stay cool, 

கோடைகால ஊற்றை போல்;

You let my heart stay free, 

நானில்லை நீ இன்றி;

உன் கடைக்கண் பார்வை ஒன்றே போதுமே,

I feel chilled out in the scorching sun of May;

When things around me turn dry and sultry,

என்றும் இதமளிக்கும் உன் காதலுக்கு நன்றி;

உன்னில் நான் என்னை கொண்டேன், 

My life stopped from being mundane;

தொலைவோம் நம்மில் நாம் நம்மை தேடி,

I’m on, babe, are you ready???

And this year that has gone by, has proved one thing for sure,

That there lies a destiny in every man’s life…

And this year that has gone by, has showed one thing so pure,

That She is my destiny and that She is my Wife!!!!!

Happy Birthday Wi-Fi ;-)

Just go out there, Just open up yourself, Just DO It

You can rhyme a tune well, probably better than a few who shout in those innumerous TV shows. But still, you are merely a spectator and that mediocre – A singer. You can tap your feet well, probably better than a few who throw their hands and legs around on those big stages. But still, you are merely a spectator and that mediocre – A Dancer. What made the big difference between you being what you are and the one on the screen…

Yes, you may be right, he exposed his talent at the right place in the right time and you, missed all those right times, mostly because of the fear of criticism. There must have been times, when your legs just itched to get to the dance floor. And what did you do? You found a reason of your legs being weak and your body being tried to stop it from pursuing its dreams.

Knowing to dance is a talent and showcasing that dance is a behavior. A talent without an appropriate behavior is as bad as not possessing that talent at all. On the other hand, an appropriate behavior with a mediocre talent, is as good as possessing that talent itself. If you have some goodies in your bag just open it and display them. Don’t let it sleep in your bag and say, the world did not recognize it. Nobody wants to unearth talent, they only want to observe it.  
If you feel like singing now, just go out there, sing your heart... If you feel like writing something, just pick up your pen, words will flow… So next time you are lying on a couch thinking “I can do this better than him” and if you want that mediocre to be thrown out, just go out there, just open up yourself, Just DO It.

A Perfect Partner can never be chosen, it just happens! - Like YOU happened for me :-)

"Marriages happen in Heaven" - A statement that was a myth of the past for me for two reasons. One, I dint believe in a concept called heaven and two, even if a heaven exists I was pretty sure a cruel thing like marriage will never happen there :-P 

Post March 5,2012; I tend to speak "FOR" the above statement. Now I believe that a Marriage is one sure thing that is worthy to happen in heaven and even if a heaven never exists, a marriage will construct that heaven for you in your daily life. This girl, Naveena, I have seen her almost all the 365 days in a year when I was a child. When my mom told me about this girl, I was like, "Wait, I never remember seeing this girl and I do not know much about her", while the actual fact was way different.  Looking back from this point of my life, I see that she was somehow connected with me one way or the other right thru and she was meant to be that ONE for me. She hapenned to be my neighbour and their compound used to be our playing grounds.We have studied in the same school, tuitions and we have even been inside the same campus knowing not we were (When I worked for CTS, CBE and she was studying at KG College which was in the same campus). Then she happens to get placed in the same CTS and then get to fall on my mom's eyes for her to take a notice of her for me. 

As Steve jobs said in his famous last speech, connecting the dots backwards will make a lot of sense in life. You will feel it all happenned in a structured manner without your conciousness. Someone sitting all above was planning her for me and me for her right from the beginning. Wherever we go, how many ever people we bump into in our lives, we will get together only with the best of choices and that choice is already made. When I was young, I used to strongly believe in Love marriages. Arranged marriage made no sense to me for the very reason that you have to insure your life with some unknown party (Risk involved is very high). I made a choice and it dint turn out to be fruitful. What seemed to be the most saddest incident in my life makes so much sense today. And it seems to be the most perfect thing that could have happenned to me. Whatever destiny has in place for you will be your most perfect combination and all that you run behind is just to prove to yourself that it is not worth it. 

I am proud that such a girl is my wife and I wanted to embark this on the most special day in her life - March 24th, her birthday (Hereafter a special day in my life too). I love you veena and I will love you the rest of my life each day as I love you for the first time :-) Hearty birthday wishes....

You hate someone? Please, please continue to do so!

Recall the name of a person whom you hate the most. Like, the very thought of him should made you fume now. Spare a minute to think about his/her personal state. The person would be someone’s loved Parent, someone’s admired Sibling, and Someone’s adored Better half.  Somehow somewhere, he is living the life of a lovable soul.  Take away is that, he/she is not really whom you think they are. It is just the illusion of what they have chosen to show you and what you have chosen to perceive of them which brings you all the hatred, resentment and the negativity you associate with them.

Now those of you who have already started thinking that this is an advice for you to start loving them as they are all basically good people, sorry friends, you are mistaken. They have taken their rights to show you what they thought you deserve to see of them and you have taken your equal rights to perceive them as you saw they were.  Just because they are loved by someone does not qualify them to be loved by you. It will be like I am propagating you to like Adolf Hitler (I already know a few of you do) because he was adorned by Eva Braun.

You are right in putting people in the place where you think they deserve best placed. It is your own right. After all, you have the freedom for that. At the same time, what we are very good at doing is, to make sure all the others with us also create such an image of the person we hate. Now that is wrong. As you took your freedom to decide, have the courtesy to let others enjoy their liberation in choosing what they think of your enemy. Putting it straight – “Mind your own business”.

By spreading a bad image, you not only steal others of their freedom but also deposit some negativity so that your image becomes that rusty one day. I hear a few voices saying, “We should warn our acquaintances of the bad we know, I am their Saviour”. Fine, you can do that, but you should not dump your thoughts in the process. Just lay the facts down and let your friend’s brain do some thinking. Already, the human brain utilizes only 10% of it’s capacity (As supported by a popular myth ;-) ) , you please do not do your part to bring that % even down.

Let your enemy be your enemy. By trying to make them others enemies, you only prove your inability of possessing enough force to fight him down single handed. You are only making situations worse for your own self.

It is never a girls mistake anymore

I have many friends around me. Equal number of guys and girls... if 2 guys would equal 1 girl ;-) But the fact is almost all of the guys I know have been let down by a girl at one point or the other. And almost all the girls I know have let down a guy at one point or the other. My calculations would only go wrong if I am not telling that a guy has been let down by many girls or a girl has let down many guys. If my HR lessons were true, Learning is a continuous process and it happens to stop us from doing the same mistake twice. How come a guy always tends to repeat this mistake of trusting a girl and end up messing it all? Ok ok, I hear girls say loud “Boys are naturally a bit dumb”. No guy would not want to accept that… If only you can draw the boundaries of that dumbness to matters associated with a girl.

The above statements would look like a guy shouting out in despair (Of course of being let down). It might be or might not be true. But the important factor to question is why is this belief of girls being not so trustworthy (I am restricting this statement only to love) going on since the existence of life!!! If you think very hard…………….. you cannot figure out anything ;-).. Just relating to simple things, I can answer that question instantly.. It is all because of the guy. 

No girl accepts a guy that easily. She takes lot of time to say a yes… But when she says it she means it. You all could have heard this lot of times. A guy on the other hand, falls in love instantly, expresses it as crazily as possible, and does things he himself could not have imagined he could do – Just to get that girl, come what may. In the process of trying to impress her, he lives a life that is not he. He transforms to someone to whom that girl would like saying yes to. The actual problem is not that. The issue is he cannot keep acting for long. When the person who was liked by the girl ceases to exist, it is then she realizes that she has been fooled into this whole drama called Love. 

If you can return a set of speakers worth a few rupees for the reason that they do not produce the sound which they promised to... Why can’t a girl return your love to you and just keep walking when you are not the person whom she actually loved? This is the only reason I see for the strikingly large numbers of guys being let down (Differences of opinion are always welcome). But we do not stop proposing, we do not stop chasing, we do not stop acting, we do not stop feeling for it or we do not stop being someone else for that matter of fact. 

This whole argument might seem one sided. It goes without saying that this does not apply to guys who have loved a girl being themselves and still got deceived. I guess I am speaking of the majority here. There are those bad girls out there in equal number to that of the bad guys. But still, if you do not drag her into it there is no need to experience you being dragged out of it forcibly. After all, you cannot drive a 1000 CC bike at 180 KMPH, get yourself crushed and complain that the bike crushed you. Yes, it is powerful, it is capable of being driven at that speed but if you exploit it without proper gears or under wrong circumstances then you deserve being killed. It is never the bikes mistake anymore. It is never a girls mistake anymore…     

இது அன்னையர் தின வாழ்த்து அல்ல!!!

தன் பசியோடு எனக்கு சமைத்து
நான் பசியாற கண்டு அவள் பசியாறி,
தன் வலியோடு என்னை ஸ்பரிசித்து
நான் தூங்க கண்டு அவள் வலிமறந்து,
தன் துணி அழுக்காக என் துணி துவைத்து
நான் மின்ன கண்டு அவள் கண்கள் மின்ன,
தன் வாழ்கை எனக்காக வாழ்ந்து
நான் வாழ்வதை அவள் போல எண்ணி....

என் பசி, என் வலி, என் நலம், என் வாழ்கை,
ஒரு பொழுதும் என்னது மட்டுமாய் இருந்ததே இல்லை
என் ஊனையும் உயிரையும் எனக்கு ஊட்டியவள்
அதில் இரண்டற கலந்ததில் மாயமும் இல்லை!

அம்மா, இது உன் குழந்தை உனக்கு அனுப்பும்
அன்னையர் தின வாழ்த்து அல்ல,
எனக்காய் உன்னை சமர்ப்பித்த உனக்கு,
நான் என்றும் உன் சமர்ப்பணம் என்னும் அன்னையர் தின உறுதி!!!

                                                                                             - கண்ணன்

Your time ahead will eventually be Worthy

When we buy a new gadget or upgrade to the next version, all we want to do is simplify the existing process. For instance, you upgrade from ordinary mobile phones to hand held PDA’s to simplify your work life. Advancement in any front is only to better the existing condition. But have you noticed how we have advanced from age 1 to where we are now but have not bettered our condition? In fact worsened it? I wonder how this could alone be contradicting with the Law of Nature!  From Standard 1 to Standard 10, we got better at Science; From PC’s to Laptops, we got better at computers; From some small village to a metropolitan, we bettered our life style; But from Birth to this point!!! God damn it, we have screwed up the whole system!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I believe analysing things from the smallest and commonest details possible to find solutions for a complex problem. So let me take a simple instance (rather silly (for now)), and try to extrapolate to find a solution for this contradiction.

I remember using Windows 98 in my class 6. That is when I actually knew what an OS was. When computer itself was a big fantasy back then, not so lucrative GUI and response time delays did not seem a factor at all. I was awe struck when I could type ABCD, draw circles, watch videos, listen to music and do all this exactly where I was sitting and in exactly one small box right in front of me!!! It was awesome! But sooner complaints started pouring in, all the other schools had something called Windows 2000 but we are still with the same old system. People who were earlier mesmerized by what this ’98 did were suddenly gobbing at it. Even I felt my school was way beyond in technology. As days went by, there was a sudden buzz around the school of OS being upgraded to Windows 2000. I feared my practical exams, as I have prepared well in the existing OS and the new one could prove a nightmare for me. A friend of mine who just joined me at class 10 did not seem to be too disturbed by this switch over. When I asked him he said, “I am going to see a computer for the first time in my life, so it does not make a big difference”. Gosh, the fact that I was exposed to computers is going to kill me!! And the fact that he was not is going to save him! It was very paradoxical. When I sat for my first practical hour in front of the Windows 2000, as the system was booting my heart was thumping as if the screen is going to throw a monster at me. To my surprise, it was same old login box, same old start button and the screens kept popping up which were so much familiar to me. Not to mention, yes it was a bit more colourful and I was able to handle things easier than I used to (Back then, did not understand that it was the improved user friendliness that let me do it). Just then the thought of this friend of mine sprouted out, I turned back and saw him being tutored by my teacher as to how things had to be done.

Might look a silly story, but let’s take the insights from it and see if it is still silly. Foremost, when we get to a higher position in life, if we had mastered our previous situations and have got ready for the advancement, we would not feel the transition so painful. When we are not ready to carry ourselves, if we marry and accept to carry another soul, then it is real problems. Next, appreciate what you have rather than mourning over it. All that is happening at the present is only for my good and I am learning each second through what I am doing. It is not always the big things that are important, smaller details might not weigh more, but matter most. Then, do not fear anything out of your premonitions. 99% of the time what you fear is the surest thing not to happen. For that 1% probability we lose 100% of ourselves and fail to enjoy the time in-between. Saying this, I recall this quote “Never borrow from the future. If you worry about what may happen tomorrow and if does not happen, you have worried in vain. Even if it does happen, you have to worry twice.”

Before vying for any new improvements let us learn to enjoy the present and live it with an attitude of learning as much as we can. If the improvement we expect is not happening, it means we are not prepared, as much as we should we have, to accommodate the new level. Yes, we all want to become Managers as soon as possible and struggling for it, we are not living the grade we are at now; we are chasing it to reach there. When you become a manager, you will chase it for becoming the General Manager. Never can you live like that, but end up only wasting it on wanting to live, just as we chased our school life to get into a college as soon as possible. Touch your heart and see how much it longs for those dead and buried school days. We can never get back even a day of it; same applies to your day today. And when the improvement is finally happening, let us be confident enough to handle it, only the enjoyment of our previous experiences will give us that. Your time right now is worth living and so your time ahead will eventually be worthy.

And the most important lesson – No story is silly ;-) There is a lot to analyse, learn, retrospect and communicate; no matter what.